What are the biggest mistakes divorced parents make?
While parents are divorcing and after they are divorced, they are often overwhelmed by all the changes in their lives. They may be filled with guilt, blame, rage, or grief. Though they, of course, love...
View ArticleFive Tips to Let Go and Forgive after a Break-Up
Learning how to let go and forgive helped me a lot after two “break-ups.” Neither of these was with a spouse or romantic partner, but they were deep and difficult and painful nonetheless. One was with...
View ArticleFour Elements of Forgiveness—50 Years Later.
I read recently about a beautiful example of forgiveness for a wrong that happened 50 years before. Elwin Wilson had been a white supremacist, and one of the mob who, in 1961, severely beat up Freedom...
View ArticleThe Return of the Light–now is a perfect time to let go and forgive
The Light Returns! All our ancestors, from whatever spiritual or religious tradition, had some kind of celebration at this time of year to honor the return of the light. In the far past, they watched...
View ArticleHealing your Relationship with Money: letting go of fear, resentment, and...
Is talking about money scary, triggering, or confusing? Do you worry that there is never enough? Issues around Money can be big emotional triggers for many of us. As a communication and letting go...
View ArticleFrom Fear and Avoidance to Love and Trust: Transforming Your Relationship...
Looking back, my needs around money have always been met. But it didn’t feel that way to me at all. I bounced between vagueness, avoiding concrete information or action about money, and terror, that...
View ArticleMoving from the Shadows into the Sunlight
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.–Ralph Waldo Emerson We have a choice Perhaps my biggest learning on my own journey to healing and recovery is that I...
View ArticleForgiving the World
Can you forgive and accept the whole world? Several months ago, I began a daily practice of using affirmations from a Course in Miracles workbook. One of the affirmations was, “I forgive the world.”...
View ArticleThe Long Path to Immediate Forgiveness
I had a short lived fight with my wife, Linda, recently that I actually feel good about, because it shows the positive results of my ( and her) long hard work on forgiveness. The situation: It was...
View ArticleNo Sour Grapes in this Conflict
What would you do if someone secretly took grapes from your garden? Would you get mad? Feel like a victim? Blame the neighbors and call them thieves? Put up a fence to protect your property? Post angry...
View ArticleSeparation as a Cause of Conflict and Violence
Misunderstandings, resentments, and differences can fuel conflicts in the workplace or any place. But the longer I work to understand and heal my own resentments and conflicts, and the more I work...
View ArticleLet Go of “Shoulds” and Expectations at Work (or Anywhere)
Shoulds and expectations are a big source of conflict. If we have a clear, though completely unrealistic expectation of how the other person should behave, or what should happen, we can get ourselves...
View ArticleThe illusion of making someone else change
One of the most common illusions that new coaching clients have is that by working with me they can somehow find tricks or techniques to convince the other person to think and behave differently. It...
View ArticleWe’re All in This Together: Listening to Each Other in Troubled Times
Hope and despair in the landscape of today. It is challenging to hold on to a hope of peaceful coexistence, harmony, and positive conflict resolution in light of all the mass shootings, terrorist...
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Healing Old Hatreds at Work or Anywhere
One of the sources of unresolved conflict at work and elsewhere can be unconscious (or conscious) bias and prejudice. But instead of reacting, you can choose to respond and communicate. A few years...
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Healing your Relationship with Money: letting go of fear, resentment, and...
Is talking about money scary, triggering, or confusing? Do you worry that there is never enough? Issues around Money can be big emotional triggers for many of us. As a communication and letting go...
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From Fear and Avoidance to Love and Trust: Transforming Your Relationship...
Looking back, my needs around money have always been met. But it didn’t feel that way to me at all. I bounced between vagueness, avoiding concrete information or action about money, and terror, that...
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Moving from the Shadows into the Sunlight
Most of the shadows of this life are caused by our standing in our own sunshine.–Ralph Waldo Emerson We have a choice Perhaps my biggest learning on my own journey to healing and recovery is that I...
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Forgiving the World
Can you forgive and accept the whole world? Several months ago, I began a daily practice of using affirmations from a Course in Miracles workbook. One of the affirmations was, “I forgive the world.”...
View ArticleClik here to view.
The Long Path to Immediate Forgiveness
I had a short lived fight with my wife, Linda, recently that I actually feel good about, because it shows the positive results of my ( and her) long hard work on forgiveness. The situation: It was...
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